July 21 - Does abuse define who you are?
Scripture focus: That famous promise God gave Abraham--that he and his children would possess the earth--was not given because of something Abraham did or would do. It was based on God's decision to put everything together for him, which Abraham then entered when he believed. If those who get what God gives them only get it by doing everything they are told to do and filling out all the right forms properly signed, that eliminates personal trust completely and turns the promise into an ironclad contract! That's not a holy promise; that's a business deal. A contract drawn up by a hard-nosed lawyer and with plenty of fine print only makes sure that you will never be able to collect. But if there is no contract in the first place, simply a promise--and God's promise at that--you can't break it. This is why the fulfillment of God's promise depends entirely on trusting God and his way, and then simply embracing him and what he does. God's promise arrives as pure gift. That's the only way everyone can be sure to get in on it, those who keep the religious traditions and those who have never heard of them. For Abraham is father of us all. He is not our racial father--that's reading the story backward. He is our faith father. We call Abraham "father" not because he got God's attention by living like a saint, but because God made something out of Abraham when he was a nobody. Isn't that what we've always read in Scripture, God saying to Abraham, "I set you up as father of many peoples"? Abraham was first named "father" and then became a father because he dared to trust God to do what only God could do: raise the dead to life, with a word make something out of nothing. When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn't do but on what God said he would do. And so he was made father of a multitude of peoples. God himself said to him, "You're going to have a big family, Abraham!" Abraham didn't focus on his own impotence and say, "It's hopeless. This hundred-year-old body could never father a child." Nor did he survey Sarah's decades of infertility and give up. He didn't tiptoe around God's promise asking cautiously skeptical questions. He plunged into the promise and came up strong, ready for God, sure that God would make good on what he had said. That's why it is said, "Abraham was declared fit before God by trusting God to set him right." But it's not just Abraham; it's also us! The same thing gets said about us when we embrace and believe the One who brought Jesus to life when the conditions were equally hopeless. The sacrificed Jesus made us fit for God, set us right with God. Romans 4:12-25 (The Message)
Physical, spiritual, verbal, and emotional abuse leave the abused feeling impotent. I've also had abusers report that they also feel powerless to stop these behaviors that they know are wrong. Isn't it great that God doesn't expect us to live well before he'll choose to love us? Abuse is serious business. But it does not have to become a defining moment for either abused or abuser.
Recommended reading: 1 Samuel 4-6
3 comments:
Such powerful words. Please, keep them coming...there are many of us 'out here' who need to hear/read these gentle words of encouragement, no matter where we are in our recovery.
Amen,
You always seem to touch on issues that I need to deal with.
God Bless
Yep once we figure out we are not our behavior or the lies of our abuser, life can get pretty darn good. I am much more than an abuse survivor. I am a father, husband, devoted follower of Christ,a grandfather, employee, sponsee, sponsor and actually like myself today. I have worth if for no other reason I am a kid of the KING.
Peace yall
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