August 19
Scripture focus: God spoke: "Let us make human beings in our image, make them reflecting our nature so they can be responsible for the fish in the sea, the birds in the air, the cattle, and, yes, Earth itself, and every animal that moves on the face of Earth." God created human beings; he created them godlike, reflecting God's nature. He created them male and female. God blessed them: "Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge! Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every living thing that moves on the face of Earth." Genesis 1:26-28 (The Message)
One time a couple asked to meet with Pete and I to discuss their marital problems. Asking for input from another couple is an example of using a "people" boundary. When we invite others to hear our story and offer feedback, we're providing ourselves with a check and balance system. Feedback is good. Isolation is bad.
The husband opened the conversation by whipping out his bible and turning to today's scripture focus passage. He contended that their marital strife was a result of his wife's failure to understand and support his authoritative place in the world. From his perspective, God's call to "Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge! Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air…" meant that he was supposed to work hard and make a lot of money, make all decisions, and subdue the fish and birds by fishing and hunting every weekend. Of course, the reproducing part was up to the wife and he was willing to do his part on that front as well.
One evening didn't renovate this marriage but it did begin a conversation. When we have really strong opinions about issues and those beliefs are causing us relationship problems, it might be a good idea to utilize a people boundary.
Recommended reading: 2 Kings 10-12
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